Family

From many viewpoints the family is the most important part of the individual’s personality. We may see the family as a small world demonstrating the complexities of the real world. The size of the varying country by country and century by century. The institution of the family in all cultures is based on the one blood principle. People having blood connections created sophisticated relative relationships which is known and appreciated by the whole family. Since the beginning of civilization the blood-based principle was the driving force for ambitions which each family would have. The history of mankind is full of such dynasties based on the one blood principle.

Modern times has brought a different type of influence than strictly “one family principle”. Nowadays people not having the need to fight to create conspiracies or generate dynastical marriages, so they created the need for friendship. Friendship may be seen sometimes more accurate than family connections. Friends are sometime witnessing our deep or open confessions which we can’t say within the true blood family because we may “lost face” front of them. To “lost face” is simply unacceptable for family members which are generally respected by their peer.

One human tribe has even today very strong family connections. This tribe is called Hebrews or Jews. One of their stone solid principle is the family is always more important than state because state may collapse but not the family.

Family is often the source of these basic values, a way of behaving, providing a communication principle on how to react to different situations in life. The family is a point when legendary stories are shared and remembered by all members. The family serves as an example of unity, ambitions and/or prosperity. The family is often a place for own viewpoints, ambitions, openness, mysteries or sense of specific humor. The family may support or devastate their members which are recognized as incompatible with the family moral principles. Murders may be adored or hated within the family because it all depends on the specific situation (Italian vendetta for example). Families serve as circles of assurances or life boats which can save an individual’s life. The most important thing is not to loose the family connections. Everybody should know their own family history because is important to know from which roots the family grown up and prospered. The genealogy is a science focused on disclosure and discovery of forgotten family roots and relationships. In the time of high risks, the genealogy may serve as light house of the traditions and continuity of the family elements.

Families may have their ambitions and how efficient or influential they want to be or which kind of heritage they would like to keep or enhance. Families represent the probabilities which may be actioned or transformed into the individual’s talent or special skills. Families are our inner circles. They should not be perfect, but they should be respected. A person without a family is lost person.

One of the powerful concepts of the communist power was the erasing of these bridges within the families. This started by the creation of pre-kinder gardens, the involvement of kids to out-of-school special clubs where the communist indoctrination often started. The circle of power continued by mandatory memberships within the communist supporting organizations. Along this way just one rule way repeated - communist party is more important than anything else. The Communist separation of family continues in the forms of creating blocks of flats where the physical dimensions pushed the families to separation. Such flats were designed as too small to secure the normal family life. This used to be a main reason for many divorces which were very often. Fathers felt as unwanted or un-respected because they have not been given a chance to claim their own style how to design their own flat. The reason was there were just few types of standard furniture, so all flats were like each other.

The safe harbor for many families represents their cottages or country houses which become very popular in the sixties when communists power strengthens brutally. Old country houses which were empty for dozens of years started to become a new centers of family life. Families were unifying their financial resources, they often combined their workforce to speed up the reconstruction works, and they offered the renovated houses for recreation for other family members. So, the unity of families literally transformed from the cities where families lived separately to the country houses where the families lived according their needs.

Every dictatorship political regime tried to cut off the family relationships because if a person feels uncovered and unprotected by the family ties than the manipulation is much simplier. Families as an institution continues across the centuries without many big changes. The purpose of the family is to generate food, provide protection or help educate all new members which may be born. Family takes care of their members and no one is lost if the family is protecting him or her.

Over the last few decades we have seen the trend when couples live together without an official marriage. This may be useful because “nobody needs a paper to feel happy” but marriage is much more than official certification. It is an official confirmation that the new stability is here and may continue for decades to come. Marriage is not just an official declaration of two people to live together and be happy. It is a symbol that the two families getting two new members which are going to be connected. Families consist from husband and wife and need to absorb the habits and other specifications but first these two people should know each other. In other words, the family circles were extended to be stronger and provide more chances to grow for both families.

The family can be a pleasant place or place of instability or a home of violence. For these reasons the divorce was created. It is not logic to keep two people together if they don’t want to be a family unit any more. Above all religions, traditions or material wealth is the feeling of the individual. Freedom should be given to the married couple if nothing else can be done. As human beings we deserves a happiness and if the cost might be to break in a marriage than this price must be paid.

Nobody is getting married with the plan to be divorced after few years. When is happens it is a big surprise for any married couple, because it was not their original intention. Everybody wants to live happily ever after but sometimes it is not always possible. Divorce is the other side of the marriage. We all should know it. Marriage is also the other side of love. There are the marriages without love, but they are very seldom.

Families are going through centuries as a constant part of human society. Families are learning, cultivating and inspiring their members. Families exist as a form of free will of people to live together in the time of poverty, illness or rich and happiness. Families are here to survive economical, political and sociological changes. Families are sometimes stronger than states and revolutions. Families are our tickets to eternity.